Mexican and Black Couples (Blacks and Hispanics)

Mexican Dinner Last Sunday: Entomatadas/Enchiladas and Bistec a la Mexicana

2011-09-21T15:23:00.000-07:00

Haven't posted in a while since my last catastrophic event with Chiles Rellenos...but, we won't speak about it again. I had an incredible time this past weekend with my brother and his wife. I made them Bistec a la Mexicana. Now, my brother absolutely loves Mexican food now that I cook it all the time, so does my father actually...but, I digress. Anywhoo, I was really a little nervous about it because I always add my own extra ingredients to make it a little bit more flavorful, but my husband Teo wanted them to have authentic Bistec a la Mexicana along with some not-so-spicy enchiladas for my sister in law. He made sure I did everything just right. He kept looking over my shoulder and saying "no uses ninguna comida Americana ey?" Which means don't use any American food period. Little did he know, I just had to slip a little bouillon cube in the rice to add some flavor to it. As they lifted their spoon to take the first bite, Teo and I leaned over them and looked on intently, trying to see their reaction to eating authentic Mexican food. And needless to say, it was a hit! They loved every drop of it. I like inviting the Hispanic in laws over to have Soul Food and my Black American family over for Mexican. Try it some times with your own family, and don't be afraid to add your own touch to it. So here was the menu for last Sunday's dinner.

Bistec a la Mexicana (mexican style beef)
Mexican rice (white fried rice Mexican style)
Enchiladas de puerco con salsa roja (Pork Enchiladas with red salsa:salsa made from scratch)

It looked a lot like this. I forgot to take pics. Next time I will

The enchiladas were like this (I styled them exactly like this photo. In VeraCruz they are called en tomatadas which are very similar to enchiladas, but folded differently.)

Will post the receta later. If you have time look it up on youtube. There is a Mexican lady there that makes everything authentically. Her instructions are in Spanish, but the video is very easy to follow.

Do Not Eat Chile Rellenos and Chocolate

2011-08-12T15:23:00.000-07:00

Here's a tip for you. Never ever...in your entire life....eat chiles rellenos and chocolate. My stomach is used to eating spicy food now, since I have to cook it almost everday for Teo, my Mexican husband. I know that chiles rellenos is his favorite food in the world so I decided to make up a batch last night that I paired with Mexican fried rice and beans. This morning, I still had some left over so I ate 5 of them for lunch, and boy were they spicy! Afterwards, I ate my favorite chocolate bar, which is Hershey's with Almonds. Chiles rellenos meets chocolate....ugh no, that's a don't. I just had 40 minutes of THE worst bathroom experience thinkable. I'm not sure, but I think it might have been worse than labor pains or at least equal. It's just not a good idea to mix some American foods with Mexican foods unless you know what you are doing.

Don't know if you still want it, but here is Teo's family recipe of Veracruz style chiles rellenos. Poblano chiles are not used in Veracruz, they use jalapeños!

The Filling

In a pot, stew potatoes, 1 onion, 1 tomato (green) oregano, cumin, and chicken until the chicken can be shredded apart easily. (In Mexico they boil everything together, I stew it instead) mix altogether and add platano macho (sort of like bananas) and queso fresco. Then set aside.

The Chiles

You can do them two ways: you can boil them or roast them. We roast them which makes them even more hot. Cut your jalapeños at the top and scoop out all of the seeds and veins with a small knife. Then put them on a black skillet in the oven on the top grill with the oven set on broil. Roast them on all sides until they are black. Take them out and put them in a plastic bag and let them sweat and cool.

Now heat your oil to medium high

The Egg-Meringue Like Coating

Don't beat the eggs until you are almost ready to fry them. Take 2-3 eggs and separate the white from the yolk. (you need two bowls for this) Beat the yolk and set aside. Then with an electric beater set on high, whip your eggs whites until stiff just as if you are making meringue. Then you add just a tablespoon of the eggs whites into your yolk mixture, then pour the egg yolk mixture into the egg white mixture. It seems like an extra step, but it must be done, or it just does not turn out right.

Now remove your chiles from the plastic bag and peel off the charred skin. Coat them in flour, dip them in your egg mix, make sure the egg whites coat all sides, and then put them in the oil. Then drain on a paper towel when finished.

Here is a video that might help

Everyone makes them differently. You can fill them with just about anything. You will usually find them cooked Tex Mex style with Poblano peppers and stuffed with ground beef and cheddar cheese.

Help! I Can't Cook For My Hispanic Husband

2011-04-30T14:22:00.000-07:00

Most Hispanic or Latin men expect for their woman to cook and cook well. This is part of their culture. Take note, their mothers, aunts, and sisters, most all know how to cook. This can be a cause for panic in some American women who are not used to this custom or who may be unskilled in Latin cuisine.
No reason to panic though, here is an easy solution. If you are on good terms with your spouse's family and you feel some measure of comfort with them, then simply ask them for some of their recipes. If that is not an option then simply Google common Hispanic recipes, or just put in the name of your spouse's native country. There you will find an extensive list of sites that offer recipes for Latin cooking.
Also, it is good to stock up on Hispanic or Latin spices. One can find a hefty selection of these spices just by visiting the local tienda or Wal-Mart, which has a huge section of Latin foods. Once you have all of your spices and foods, use the recipes that you have found on Google and follow them verbatim. This works. Trust me. It is also a clever way of impressing your spouse and his family with your culinary skills.
Hispanic cooking tools and utensils are also a must have for efficiency in the kitchen. For example, a comal is essential in cooking up some good tortillas and gorditas, and this gives your spouse a little bit of home."

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2011-04-26T10:52:00.000-07:00

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Marrying an Illegal Alien Marrying an Undocumented Immigrant

2011-04-22T04:56:00.000-07:00

Question: My boyfriend is Mexican. Can I safely get married to my fiancé if he is illegal?

As for now the answer is yes. You can definitely marry someone even if they do not have papers. However, with all of the new bills that are being proposed and passed, things can change pretty quickly. So if you want to marry a Hispanic man or a Hispanic woman who is not documented then you will need to call the court house in your jurisdiction to see what they require. Please note that some areas have more strict rules than others. You might call and you are told that he or she must have a passport, legal driver's license for that state, or a security card, but that is not the case in all areas. If this happens to you don't be discouraged. Keep calling different counties near you until you find one that only requires his or her picture id from their native country. Also, when you become legally married, you are no longer able to automatically adjust the undocumented person's status. The rules have changed quite a bit. So even though you are legally married if they entered the country illegally he or she will have to return to the country of origin in most cases in order to adjust status.

Here are some resources
Immigrate2US

US Citizenship and Immigration Svcs.

Upcoming Movie - Our Family Wedding - Proves Black and Hispanic Latino Couples Are on the Rise

2011-04-22T04:52:00.000-07:00

More and more Black and Hispanic Latino couples are on the rise. The new movie "Our Family Wedding" starring America Ferrera and Lance Gross is indicative of that fact. The movie depicts two very strong family heads trying to cope with the shock of their children marrying interracially. Lucia is a Latina and Marcus is African American. In reality Black and Hispanic couples are not a new type of relationship. Ever since Latinos and Blacks have lived in the same neighborhoods and barrios one will find couples of this mix. What is new is the frequency of which we are seeing Black and Latino couples dating and marrying. What is causing the rise in the number of Black and Hispanic couples we see, and how is the Black/Latino love connection being made? The answers are as simple as they are complicated.

The Rise in Hispanic and African American Dating and Marriage

The most fundamental reason for the increase in Black and Hispanic relationships is that Hispanic Latino presence in the U.S. is greater than ever before. These numbers have increased tremendously since 1960. According to the Pew Research Center Latinos account for half of the population growth since 2000 with an estimated number of 44,852,816 in the U.S as of 2010, and this number does not include the almost 4 million Puerto Ricans residing here already. Many Hispanic Latinos who have arrived in this country are between the ages of 20-40, they are single, unattached, and they are more open to dating interracially than their parents or grandparents. This also opens a new market for Black women who have not ever considered dating interracially. Another popular mix is Black men and Hispanic females. The number of Black men dating and marrying Latinas is ever more increasing.

Black Latino Love Connection

Blacks and Hispanics who speak English are meeting and making love connections in various ways, such as on the job and in the neighborhoods or barrios. They are also meeting in Salsa clubs and other singles bars, as well as in grocery stores and other retail establishments. In some Black and Hispanic relationships there is a bit of a language barrier. Many of these relationships are starting with out being able to communicate verbally at all at first. In the beginning stages of dating, many Black and Hispanic Latino couples have reported using hand gestures and signs to communicate, and yet, they were able to understand each other perfectly. Many couples reported heightened levels of passion in these relationships. In a short time, many Blacks have learned to speak Spanish and many Hispanics have learned to speak English and fluently. Many Black and Latino couples are thriving in loving healthy relationships.

No doubt with the new release of "Our Family Wedding" and last year's "I Can Do Bad All by Myself" both depicting love between African American and Hispanics, we will begin to see an even bigger trend in the near future.

Traciy Curry-Reyes

Hispanic and Black Couples Are Beautiful

2011-04-21T08:49:00.000-07:00

Mexican Boyfriend Wants A Clean House!

2011-04-21T08:15:00.000-07:00

Here is a question that I received via email.

My boyfriend thinks I am lazy
I have three kids under the age of 3 and I have a two bedroom apartment. And I clean the house all the time but it still looks a mess because my kids destroy my house as soon as i clean it and it stresses me out bad. So when my bf comes home from work he complains to me about the house and it kind of upsets me and stresses me out and he thinks I haven't done anything all day. My question is how do you try to maintain your house and maintain your sanity when your husband or boyfriend when he comes home and sees the house is a mess and you have children under the age of 3.

Lisa,

I understand exactly what you are going though as I have a 3 year old son myself. I think most men like a clean house. Most Mexican men do want you to maintain a clean home. The one thing that I have found is that Mexican men are very willing to help you clean the home especially if they see that you are overwhelmed, which is quite different from many American Black men. I guess that is if you are fortunate enough to have that kind of man. In the case that you don't, I would suggest explaining to him that you'll do the best that you can, but that it will be challenging for you since you guys have small kids in the home. Perhaps you can try making out a schedule so that you can get up before the little ones awake or stay up a little later at night. Both times work best for me. Here is a website that helps me organize it's called Fly Lady. Anyway try not to get stressed out. Mexican men are used to domestic type Mexican women who are super women in the home. They can cook, clean, and take care of the kids all without complaining. However, I stress this is not all Mexican women. It depends on where they are from. Sounds like your guy might be from the rural areas. Anywhoo let me know how it goes.

Dirty Looks Interracial

2011-04-20T03:53:00.000-07:00

I live in a state that has not been too accepting of interracial couples in the past. I must say that it is getting a lot better. My husband is Mexican so I have at times experienced different reactions depending on the particular location. Typically we have not had much of a problem at all. However, entering a Mexican restaurant at times can be quite...well, uncomfortable. I don't mean the modern commercial types of Mexican restaurants, but the REAL Mexican restaurants where only Spanish is spoken and where the local Mexicans actually eat. In the real Mexican restaurants we get LOTS of looks...not really dirty, but curious. For that reason the Mexican husband and I find it a lot more comfortable to eat in Mexican restaurants that are more mainstream because it seems that no one really cares especially in mainstream restaurants like Guadalajara's (Mexican) or Sabor Latino (Peruvian) that are used to seeing American patrons.

On the other hand, I've gotten letters from many women who are getting a lot of dirty looks. I guess it depends on the area in which you live. One person told me that she gets dirtier looks more from Mexican American and Puerto Rican women when she is with her Latino man more than any other type. But, it goes both ways. I have a lot of my Hispanic girlfriends who tell me that they get a lot of dirty looks from Black women when she is with her black man. The experiences seem to be different for everyone. So how would you handle dirty looks? I guess the short answer for me is to look straight ahead or to focus the attention on your spouse instead of the "others". We also make it a habit to pay more attention to one another instead of tuning into who might be staring or making comments. When you keep the focus on one another this builds confidence amongst the two of you which makes for a much more enjoyable time where ever you go.

Black Husband and Mexican Wife or Mexican Wife and Black Husband

2011-04-20T03:31:00.000-07:00

Teaching Kids to Speak Spanish

2011-04-20T03:25:00.000-07:00

My son is 3 years old, and he speaks more Spanish than English. I have spoken to him in Spanish almost exclusively since he was born and so does his father. My daughter who is 14 from a previous marriage is also bilingual, and she chooses to speak to her brother in mostly English. He has also figured out that I am not a native speaker, and now he hates speaking to me in Spanish. When his father is home he speaks Spanish exclusively. My goal was for him to learn Spanish first until age 3 and now I am saying everything twice once in English and once in Spanish.

I chose this way because obviously he would know and learn English since his sister has spoken to him almost exclusively in English since birth. I just did not want him to have to "learn" Spanish. If you want to raise your children to speak both English and Spanish the recommendation is that one parent speak exclusively Spanish and the other exclusively English. Also, it would be good to join some bilingual forums. This is what I did when my son was first born. The goal is for him not to just understand Spanish when it is spoken to him, but to really know it. My daughter has been "learning" Spanish since age 7, and she speaks it and understands it fluently. Teaching them to be bilingual has it's challenges....but in the end you are giving them something that they will use for life.

black and hispanic couples and white and latino relationships

2010-05-13T03:29:00.000-07:00

Looking for a list of movies regarding Black and Hispanic couples and White and Latino Relationships.

Upcoming Movie - Our Family Wedding - Proves Black and Hispanic Latino Couples Are on the Rise

2010-04-19T03:31:00.001-07:00

Traciy Curry-Reyes

Mexican Husband: Lunch and dinner Ideas (ideas para lonche y cena)

2008-10-27T09:10:00.000-07:00

Menu: Lonche de Mi Esposo (my husband's lunch) and Dinner Ideas
Lonches de mi Esposo

Decided to post some lunch ideas if you prepare your husband lonche in the mornings. I do this every morning at 4 am. Yesterday, my husband told me that 3 of the guys from his work asked to try one of the tacos (they always trade tacos). Upon tasting them, they asked, "can she make us some? We will buy the meat and pay her to prepare lonches for us too?" I thought...ok. I guess I could. Anyway, I made the taco with a Teriyaki chicken filling. This is a little bit different for Mexican taste buds, as most do not like meat that is dulce (sweet). But they loved this. I do not have exact measurements for this. I cook a lot of soul food so I do not measure. I just know how much I want in there. You have to season this recipe to taste.
here is the recipe:
Ingredients

Pechugas de pollo (chicken breasts)
onions/cebolla
chile Jalapenos
Teriyaki Sauce (I use lots of this sauce)
Soy Sauce (only a little of this)
1 tablespoon of sugar
Mayo
Tortillas
Soul Food Seasoning or Seasoning Salt
Onion Powder
Black Pepper
Sazon Goya con culantro y achiote
Directions/Direcciones

Filling
In a pot, add 1 tablespoon of oil. Prep your chicken. Add soy sauce and teriyaki sauce first. Then add the spices (soul food seasoning or seasoning salt, onion powder, sazon goya con culantro y achiote, black pepper) cook on low until everything cooks down. The aroma is nice. This has lots of flavor.

Tortillas
heat tortillas (in a comal or on the eye of the stove) add mayo (mayo sounds weird, but it helps the meat to stick and it adds a good flavor) then add the meat filling and fold. Then stack them on white sandwich paper in fours and wrap in aluminum foil. In a separate plastic bag, add pico de gallo: chopped onion, chiles, and tomato marinated in lemon for them to add to the taco at lunch time. Don't forget a napkin and semi frozen sangria to drink.

Breakfast Ideas
Breakfast this morning was Tacos de Salchichas con cebolla y chile
Ingredients
corn tortillas
hot dogs (turkey oscar meyer)
onions/cebolla y chile
jalapeno
aceite/oil
mayonesa/mayonnaise
directions/direcciones
With a small amount of oil, fry 3-4 oscar meyer turkey hot dogs with chopped onion and 1 jalapeno. Fry until it is all caramelized together. Heat your tortillas en a comal or on top of the stove, after add mayonnaise to them and add the hot dog filling. Fold over once. On wax paper stack them in threes or fours. Wrap in aluminum foil.

Dinner ideas
I love to blend Mexican and Soul Food recipes together to make an eclectic dinner table.
My favorite Mexican and Soul food dishes.

Esquite (Mexican corn on the cob)(Here in the U.S.) Corn on the cob rolled in mayonnaise, hot sauce, and then parmesan cheese.(in Mexico) they use loose kernels in a cup marinated in lime, green Jalapeño sauce, and cheese.

Collard Greens topped with a homemade Jalapeño salsa, macaroni and cheese, and pork tacos

Tuesday, April 21st Menu
Ok so last night I made a really good dinner. You know I am always trying to find away to blend both the Soul Food cuisine to Mexican cuisine lol. Anyway, the recipe was Fried Chicken in Salsa Verde and it was absolutely delicious. Teo loved the dish. He had never had the two together. I don't what made me think of it. I guess I applied the same Soul Food cooking logic to the recipe...you know...cooking from the soul. Anyway it was a success. So thumbs up for me. Here is the recipe. I don't have exact measurements for you. You basically have to season it to taste. So here it goes.

Fried Chicken in Salsa Verde

You can use any part of the chicken. You can use thighs if you need to make a really cheap recipe or you can use chicken breasts. I have tried it both ways and believe it or not Teo liked it better with thighs since he is more accustomed to eating thighs instead of breasts. Lucky for us, it is a really cheap dish this way if you have to feed a family of four. But I digress.

Ingredients Needed

Chicken
Salsa Verde (I make it from scratch when I have time and sometimes I use the one in the jar.)
1-2 packets of Sazon Goya con azafran
Black Pepper
Oil
Flour and meal (equal parts)

Directions
Coat the chicken with just black pepper and equal parts of flour and meal. Next, deep fry the chicken on both sides until golden brown and almost done in the middle. Take it out and drain and add Sazon Goya con Azafran. In another pot add a half jar of Salsa Verde. Then add your chicken pieces. Turn them over on both sides so that they are fully coated with the salsa. Cook on low for about 1 hour until very tender. You can serve this with Mexican rice and tortillas on the side. Enjoy.

2008-08-30T14:47:00.000-07:00

There is hardly any information on the web about these couples, but tons of these couples are present in every major city in America. I used the term black to include all people of African descent. This includes Blacks from the continent of Africa, African-Americans, and expands to all points of the African Diaspora. As many already know, there are Black-Hispanics all over the world such as Peru, Columbia, and Puerto Rico who share a common culture. However, this blog is about Blacks and Mexicans who have completely different cultures. Anyone is welcome to join the blog. Please share your experiences.

Here's a Sticky (sticky note that is)

Is He or She married Back Home in Mexico?

Common Culture Clashes

Positive Stories with photo albums

2008-08-30T14:34:00.001-07:00

Share your postive stories and include photos when possible. Include when and where you met, obstacles that you have overcome, and share photos of those beautiful mixed babies if you have any.

Mexican Husband Horror Stories

2008-08-30T14:30:00.000-07:00

Maybe the relationship did not work out due to culture clashes or maybe you have existing problems that you would like to resolve. Post a question and get advice from other Mexi-Soul couples.

Blending Mexican and Black Families

2008-08-30T14:26:00.000-07:00

Discuss other culture blending ideas that work for you and your family. For example do you mix Mexican art with Black art to create a distinct look? Or maybe this is a second or third marriage for you and you have children of both non mixed heritage as well as mixed children blended together in one family. How many of you guys speak both Spanish and English in your home?